It would be easiest to stay in Weymouth. But is that what's best? If we stay in Weymouth, even if it's not in Ruby's elementary school district, I can probably talk the Town Dept. of Ed into allowing her to remain in her current school since she only has one year left before moving on to middle school. But what about Zane? He's supposed to start Kindergarten in the Fall. Do I try to talk them into Zane going to Ruby's out-of-district school, too? Do I have Ruby go to one school and Zane to another? Do I keep Zane at his child care center for their Kindergarten program and worry about 1st grade when we get to 1st grade? And what about the recreation/after school programs in Weymouth? Will I have to investigate the specifics of every prospective town before picking? I didn't do that when I first moved to Weymouth 6 years ago because Ruby was only two and I didn't know I needed to know all that stuff. Do I have time and energy for all that research now?
Is this how people end up staying in one place all their lives? Maybe it's just easier not to move. That's not really an option for me with 68% of my income currently going to housing.
Since I'm moving anyway, maybe I should take this opportunity to move to a totally different community. Do I really fit in Weymouth? I think maybe I should live somewhere closer to Boston where it's easier to take public transportation...to save gas and to have car-free commuting options just in case my sight gets worse...again. It's really hard, without a car, for me drop the kids, get to the train station, commute all the way to Cambridge, and then take a very slow shuttle all the way to work. .
Maybe I should move to Arlington, Newton, or Brookline where the schools are good, we'd be closer to the city, and I've seen some 3BR places in my price range advertised in those communities. Or maybe, I should move to Dorchester, Jamaica Plain, or Hyde Park and put my money where my mouth is with living in a diverse community. I sent a letter to a couple mom friends who live in Boston neighborhoods to gather info about how the school assignments are made.
But what about my ex? He lives in Weymouth, too, which makes it easy for him to pick up the kids at school 2 days per week, take them to dinner, and drive them home for bedtime. While I don't want to be tied to my ex's community, would my life be harder farther away?
And what about my boyfriend? Bald Hot Ken lives one town away which makes it easy--ok, nothing is exactly easy with two single, custodial parents who date each other--but it makes it EASIER to see each other. I know Ken loves me and that those feelings have nothing to do with my zip code, but it may change "stop in" kind of visits.
What about my job? I have a very, very long commute. Would it be easier with the whole work/life balance stuff if I lived closer?
What about my meetings? My home group is in Weymouth but I only get there every other Sunday and they don't require residency for membership.
Maybe I should live in Quincy. It's closer to the city but still on the South Shore. But the kids would still have to switch schools. Would I be missing an opportunity to make a real change? But, why change? Is it a "geographical cure" like what my dad was searching for when we moved across the country and back? Hmmm.
What do I like about Weymouth:
- I like the schools
- Department of Recreation has great programs for kids
- Close to Ken
- Sameness/Familiarity (I'm used to it)
- Friends/Group Members live nearby
- Zane's Child Care Center
- Beach in town
- Long commute that eats up money, gas, and time
- Distance from the city and avoidance of additional commute on the weekends for social/cultural stuff
- Idealogical differences with many people in my town
- Need the car to go anywhere/no convenient public transporation
- Some diversity but not a lot.
- Not a walking beach
- Not very pretty
I'm going to write about it (check!), talk about it, do the footwork/research, and meditate about it, and trust that I will be led in the right direction. The answers are inside of me. I just have to be still and listen.